When you look in the mirror and think “my thighs aren’t as big as I once thought they were”. Or while browsing old photos your mind receives a revelation: “that pressure I felt from my friends to succeed wasn’t even real”. The significance of things you once thought were long-lasting can crumble away in an instant (yes just like that dude you dated in year 10 who you thought was your soul mate.)
I really don’t like being that person who spills all their personal things over the internet. I’m not a fan of that at all. It just makes me cringe and want to give the person doing the spilling a big hug…and maybe the phone number of a good counsellor. In saying that, I’m going to take a moment to be real with you because this is something that does need to be shared. (And yes, I have a good counsellor – her name is Salted Caramel and Cashew Ice-Cream, in case you were wondering.)
We all innately believe that everyone is worthy of love and nothing can taint that; that no label can define us and no circumstance can surpass this truth. We believe that all are worthy of feeling loved; that someone cares for each of us; that everyone has a reason for being here and that we are all unique – hell, even our own bodies speak this truth! So why, when it comes to what we believe about ourselves, is it so hard to let these universal truths sink in?
I wish someone had told me this truth before I finished uni: “Girl, you have permission to do what you want and make your dreams a reality, FREE of feeling inadequate. Being confident in who you are, what you believe and what you want to do will be your biggest asset…Not the number of achievements you have behind you, Facebook friends and Instagram followers, because they can all leave at the drop of a hat.” That truth could have set me free and given me wings to fly a little sooner.