We are expected to pursue a guy wholeheartedly, give everything we have to him, assert our feelings and be transparently vulnerable…without any confirmation that the other person feels the same way.
This abandoning of logic and diving in wholeheartedly has left many of us bruised and battered when it comes to the world of relationships. In fact, we quickly lose hope that someone could actually love us, despite our past hurts and insecurities.
Thankfully this doesn’t have to be the case. There are still some ways we can create space for romance and chivalrous charm in today’s crazy, fast world.
But can I let you in on the biggest perk of actually choosing to invest into yourself and others. You become real. And honey, real is far more attractive than anything else. Isn’t this what men have been trying to say to us for centuries? “I want a girl who is confident” is actually code language for: “I want a woman who is unashamedly, authentically herself.
Maybe, just maybe it’s time to chuck the stupid shame and fear of being who you truly are to the side, and allow yourself a bit of kindness to actually be authentically who you are. You’ll soon realise that who you are is nothing to be ashamed of but actually something to be proud of. If we could all master this then events like Valentine’s Day would no longer create this big awkward wedge between single people and those in a relationship, because regardless of relationship status we would all be secure in who we truly are.